When Someone Shows You Who They Are...

(Excerpt from RC19 Don't Dismiss Those Red Flags in Ladies Let's Get Real About You, Life and Love)

You met someone who you feel...nah...you know is your ideal match. He says and does all the right things, the things you have been hoping for in the man you want to spend the rest of your life with with. But then you start to notice things, and I'm not talking about him leaving the toilet seat up or leaving his socks all over the house. Those kinds of thing you can work on or learn to live with.

“Be aware of the red flags. If he says or does something that does not sit right with you, if in your spirit or down to your very gut there is a growing or intense unease...make a decision..."

I'm talking about things that make you do a double take and question if this is the right relationship for you. We see things and dismiss them because we think "Oh, that's how he is," or we don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill or some other nonsense excuse because we don't want to lose this "amazing" man. There is a name for the alarming things we're seeing or experiencing - red flags! And we need to pay careful attention to them and not let our romantic/emotional intentions cloud our sensibility.

Be aware of the red flags. If he says or does something that does not sit right with you, if in your spirit or down to your very gut, there is a growing or intense unease, monitor the situation and make a decision to either continue the relationship or get out. If you are uneasy, uncomfortable, unsure about him based on his words or actions, do not let your feelings for him cloud your judgement to the point where you suffer emotionally or financially down the road.

Try to keep your senses about you when you feel like you are in love. Don't feel like you need to hang on when you see the red flags of infidelity or inconsistency. Save yourself the pain by being aware and intolerant.